Onward...Life after Grief...Applying lessons learned...Hello Again

  So, I didn’t continue to blog after all.  But since I am now going to give it another go…here I am.  I’ve been spending some time, lately, going over all the unfinished articles and musings that I’ve stored on my computer which I started after Jim died.  Much of this was written and unfinished because I simply couldn’t.  I’d get to a point and not be able to write anymore because the grief was too deep, or I simply couldn’t ‘touch’ that part of my soul yet.  

As life and time moved forward, I healed and learned a bunch of stuff about life and loss and grief and happiness.  It’s been five years; I’m doing what I know he’d want, flying free and living my life with purpose and intention.  Yet, in the midst of this, our society has been hit with a pandemic and our lives as we knew them disappeared instantly, it seemed.   

Despite our best desires for ourselves, we have had to put aside our hopes, aspirations and plans for the good of the whole.  Some are doing this well.  Some are doing it not at all.  Some are angry, sad and grieving.  Some are going on with their lives, some are protesting their right to live without constraint.  All of us have lost our lives or some part of our lives.  Whatever we are doing; we are all, now, grieving.
 

I’ve decided then, for what it’s worth, to pull out some of these past snippets of healing thoughts or musings about grief and loss that I wrote when I was in the thick of it.  Please do with them what you will.  Most will have nothing to do with the situation we are in now…it is just me thinking about then and how in the world was I going to return to some semblance of normal after the biggest loss of my life.  I may edit or add to some content for clarity, or so that you may know what my final conclusions were on that subject.  Maybe some of my insights can be applied to any loss or change that occurs in our lives now and into the future.  That will be for you to decide.

I am ‘normal’ again, now.  I am not the same, I am, in my humble opinion, better for having experienced that loss.  That may sound unkind to you, like I don’t miss him…that would be wrong.  Sometimes, still, the longing for him to be here hangs around me like an old coat that doesn’t fit me anymore…and I have to consider, why I am still wearing it.  What part of this am I revisiting or what reality do I still wish to live with/in?  Our loved ones do not want us to stay forever mourning their loss.  They want us to LIVE like they are not able to anymore.  They want us to recognize the moment and live like maybe there might not be any tomorrow. 

So, in the next weeks, I’ll be throwing out some stuff.  Leave me a comment if you’d like…head over to my Facebook page, VJ Hurst Creations and we can have a chat.  I’d love to hear your thoughts.  I might even write some new things about what I’ve learned.   If you don’t agree, be kind and let’s talk…not everyone’s experience is the same.  Know that our friends and family who die are forever with us even if it is just in our memories.

...and I did not stop taking pictures so I will throw in some of my favorites here and there.  All photos published in these blogs are copyrighted and may not be used in any form without my express permission.